Monthly Archives: November 2010

So you wanna be a Midwife….

Yeah, I do. I thinks its been in my subconscious for years. While working at a chiropractors office back in 04′ a coworker was discussing to me about how she wanted to become a midwife somethime in the future. We were both massage therapist at that time. For some reason that conversation always stuck in my head and here it is almost 6 years later and it’s finally clicking. Hm. Im really interested in this. Everything seems to be coming into play. After my Aha! moment and doing some research on Midwifery, my prenatal ceu’s. were coming up. Perfect. My 16hr weekend course was amazing. I loved it. And what do you know, there was a doula and a Midwife assisting the class. And she was a sistah 🙂  Our teacher Tiffany was amazing. Her overall energy was beautiful. I took a prenatal class when going to Aveda, but it was nothing like this. This was much more intense and so much more informing.   Also learned that there are mainly 2 kinds of Midwives. A CNM, which is a Midwife who is also a Registered Nurse. Then there is the Certified Midwife or entry level Midwife who has a degree or ceritfication in Midwifery. After some thought I decided on the latter. The only difference as far as practicing, CM’s cannot practice in hospitals. Only birthing centers, clinics, and of course the clients home. Which is certainly fine with me.

Midwifery schools are not exactly abundant. Well lets just say accredited Midwifery schools. There are a couple on the west coast and northwest. Which is fine. This is also a huge commitment. Unlike becoming a CMT, its not some 9 month program that you run through. It actually takes 3 years to complete. I could be certified or get a degree, depending on the school I choose to go to. Also discovered there is a Midwifery conference coming up the last week in March. It’s being held in Eugene, Oregon. Yay vacation! This is coming right on time. Its a 5 day conference, with the first two days focusing on classes for the beginning midwife (ME!) which is perfect since I can only afford the first 2 days, lol.  Already put in my days off. This will definitly give me an ideal of what I’m getting myself in to and what Midwifery is all about. Very excited

There is also a Birthing Doula course coming up in April. 16 hour event. But I still have to participate in so many births. The exact amount, not sure. Well just found out my sis is having her fourth little one, so she’ll definitely be on the list. 2011 will be interesting:)

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Posted by on November 20, 2010 in dear diary


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Loser Moment

Just realized my website was still linked to an old blog I deleted a YEAR AGO. So of course any comment or link I left went to a blog that’s not even there. Get it together T, lol

Thanks Ana for the heads up

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Posted by on November 19, 2010 in dear diary


LGBT Bars/Clubs coming to an end

When I read the article in CURVE magazine  about our lesbian bars and clubs closing, I could completely relate. I witnessed a club in Minneapolis called PI open it’s doors, then close 4 years later because of slow business. It was predominately a woman’s bar, but of course all were welcome. I loved  PI because there was only one bar like it. The music/DJ was weak and the location sucked. But it was something about having a bunch of women (and alcohol) all in one place that makes everything worthwhile. On some nights it was like walking onto the scene of the L Word. Though some nights, you could hear a pin drop. There was dildo bingo on wednesdays, fundraising events, and even family brunches. They also tried to mix it up by having Country night (country music night) Salsa/Latin night and even a Hip-Hop night. 

Also in a another article in CURVE there was a picture of a white model holding a sign stating: Gay is the new Black. Now I’ve heard this many times. Media, blogs, what have you. But it’s usually in the context of discrimination. Which is understandable. But after the discussion on why exactly gay/lesbian bars are coming to a close really struck me after glancing at the protest sign. Gay is the new Black. Sure the economy has effected the closure of these business. But what business hasnt been effected. My opinion: There simply isnt that need for them anymore. In the past the LGBT community needed places to go, to belong. Safe environments to dance, drink, socialize amongst our own without being harrassed and excluded. Gay is the new Black. Just like nowadays I don’t seek out exclusively Black clubs, the newer generation of gays and lesbians aren’t seeking out LGBT clubs anymore. What seemed like a great ideal in the past, now seems to be quite counterproductive. We (LGBT community, Blacks) want to be included and not stigmatized, yet we go out our way to exclude ourselves from the general population. With socializing with only our own, are we actually stepping further in the closet? I think the newer LGBT community is catching on. They don’t want to make an 45min trip to the closest gay bar, when a bar is right down the street with good music, good drinks, and *gasp* good people. No offense I don’t want to suffer through country music, alternative and techno simply to be at my local lesbo hangout. (Not saying lezzie joints all play this music, just most the ones I’ve encountered) While I love being surrounded by my gay peers, I don’t want to have to settle just to be around them.

Perfect example, this past week when me and a friend went to a birthday party that was being held at a club. I didnt know the birthday girl, but I assumed she was straight. I mean we were at a predominately straight club. However after later meeting up with her, she was clearly a baby dyke. After about 45 min or so she wanted to bounce cause it wasnt up to par. I asked her why didnt you have your thing at a gay club. (I mean duh, right)  She looked at me like I grew a third eye, shrugging she stated, “Trust me, there’s plenty of gay people out there,” she said, motioning to the women on the dance floor. Hm. I guess she has a point. I wasnt sure of anybody’s sexuality that night. But she did have a point. I’m sure their were plenty of gay and lesbians out there. However, for her it wasn’t about that. The simple fact was that the club wasn’t poppin.

Point is, Gay is the new Black. Just like protesting and marching have died down for our community (however, not stopped) regarding our rights and inclusion. Something or the other has also died down in the LGBT community. Since the younger LGBT is now growing up in a more tolerant atmosphere, there’s less of the need to look for or create LGBT clubs/bar/cafes, what have you.

However,  as a Black women living in 2010, I still deal with racism, but not to the extreme as my grandmother or my mother. The LGBT community still gets harrassed and even worse, but not to the extreme of those before us.

Maybe closing of LGBT clubs/bars is not such a bad thing. It may simply mean were evolving. Coming out the closet and not giving a damn. Going to straight clubs and dancing, kissing, socializing with our partners. And daring someone to say something.

Just like they say, “When one door closes, another one opens.”

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Posted by on November 17, 2010 in Lesbo stuff


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trippy mode

This clairvoyance stuff is tripping me out. Its rare but  for now it seems to be with names. Both times when checking in new guest. “What’s your last name?” I asked. “—-”    And as soon as I typed in the last name, Michael ran across my mind. “And first name?” He responds, “Michael.”  Hm of course it is.

Today when making a reservation I ask for the last name. “Amy Reinherdt” she say’s. Immediately I think, no thats not right. It’s Susan. Then she speaks up and says, “I mean Susan, sorry.”

I assume I must have subconciously seen them in the computer system earlier. But nope, new guest. Trippy.

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Posted by on November 9, 2010 in dear diary